To Sister Muslim (Muslimah)
All praises be to Allah, may peace and prayer always be upon the Messenger of Allah, his family, and companions, and the people who follow his path and guidance until the Last Day.
Next, I wrote this advice which is directed to every muslim sister, who is willing for Allah to be her Lord, Islam to be her religion, and Muhammad –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- as Allah’s messenger.
From Anas –may Allah be pleased with him-, from the Prophet –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him-, he said, “The iman (belief) of someone is not complete until she/he loves his siblings as if she/he loves him/herself.” ( Muttafaq alaih).
Thus, these lines were deliberately written for you, by your brother muslim who testify in the name of Allah that he loves his sisters dearly, as he loves his family and other muslim sisters.
O sister muslim, we ought to know with the utmost faith that we are created not to fool around without any meaning, nor that we will be left without any purpose and account.
Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed, “Did you imagine that We created you without any purpose, and that you will not be brought back to Us?” So, exalted be Allah, the True King! There is no god but He, the Lord of the Great Throne.” (Chapter Al Mu’minuun/The Believers:115-116).
“Does man think that he will be left alone, unquestioned?” (Chapter Al Qiyama:36)
Instead, Allah, the Creator if this beautiful universe had created us to serve one great purpose, as He revealed in His decree,
“I created the jinn and humans for nothing else but that they may serve Me;” (Chapter Adh Dhaariyaat:56)
Allah also had explained to us about the meaning of “serving” Him, which definition comprises all aspects of life, through the messengers –peace be upon him-, as in His decree,
“Indeed We sent Our Messengers with Clear Signs, and sent down with them the Book and the Balance that people may uphold justice. And We sent down iron, wherein there is awesome power and many benefits for people, so that Allah may know who, without even having seen Him, helps Him and His Messengers. Surely Allah is Most Strong, Most Mighty.” (Chapter Al Hadid/The Iron:25)
“We raised a Messenger in every community (to tell them): “Serve Allah and shun the Evil One.” (Chapter An Nahl/The Bee:36)
And Allah the Glorified and Exalted had given us a great favor, by sending Muhammad Ibn Abdullah –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- as the last prophet and messenger sent to all mankind.
Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,
“Muhammad is not the father of any of your men, but he is the Messenger of Allah and the seal of the Prophets. Allah has full knowledge of everything.” (Chapter Al Ahzab/The Clans:40)
“(Say, O Muhammad): “O people! I am Allah’s Messenger to you all – of Him to Whom belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth. There is no god but He. He grants life and deals death. Have faith, then, in Allah and in His Messenger the ummi Prophet who believes in Allah and His words; and follow him so that you may be guided aright.”” (Chapter Al A’raf/The Height:158)
Hence, all praises be to Allah for the favor of Islam.
Dear sisters, may Allah guide you to every goodness- know that Islam has regulated the lives of every muslim and muslimah according to the system prescribed by the Creator of this universe, The High and the Holy, The All-Knowing, and The Wisest. Therefore, I advise you to hold firm to the teachings of Islam, be it small or the large, in every time and place, and to take the Qur’an and sunnah of Allah’s Messenger –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- as the light that will show you the right path. May Allah preserve and protect you.
Dear sisters, may Allah preserve you, know thar the happiness in the world and in the Hereafter depends on the extent of the realization of Allah’s laws –Glorified and Exalted be He- in our life.
Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,
“Whosoever acts righteously – whether a man or a woman – and embraces belief, We will surely grant him a good life; and will surely grant such persons their reward according to the best of their deeds.” (Chapter An Nahl/The Bee:97)
And beware of the evil influence of satan from among men and jinn, which they surely have sugarcoated, because they are very dangerous. Your and this universe’s Creator had reminded us through the Qur’an:
“And so it is that against every Prophet We have set up the evil ones from among human beings and jinn, some of them inspire others with specious speech only by way of delusion. Had it been your Lord’s will, they would not have done it. Leave them alone to fabricate what they will,” (Chapter Al An’aam/The Cattle:112).
“(O Muhammad), thus did We make for every Prophet enemies from among those immersed in evil. Your Lord suffices you as a Guide and a Helper.” (Chapter Al Furqan/The Criterion:31).
O sister, provide yourself with religious knowledge taken from the Qur’an and sunnah of Allah’s Messenger –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him-. Try to memorize the whole Qur’an, or some of it that you are able to. Learn the pillars of faith, Islam, and ihsan. practice it in your daily life, and be – may Allah guide you to everything that He loves and pleases of – the role model for your family and other muslim sisters.
Dear sisters learn and carry out the meaning of the following hadith: from Umar Ibn Khattab –may Allah be pleased with him-, he said, “When we were sitting down together with the messenger of Allah –‘peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- suddenly there was one man whose clothes were extremely white, whose hair was extremely black and no indication of traveling in him, however none of us recognized him. Then he was sitting close to The Prophet –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him-, rested his knees against the knees of The Prophet –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- and put his hands on the thigh of The Prophet-peace and prayer of Allah be upon him-.. He then asked, O Muhammad, tell me what Islam is! The Prophet –peace and prayer of Allah be upon himA said, Islam is you testify that no deity that has a right to be worshipped except Allah and Muhammad is the messenger of Allah, perform salah (ritual prayer), pay the zakah, fast during Ramadan, and perform Hajj (pilgrimage) to His House (the Kabah at Mecca) if you have an ability to do so. That man said, You are right. Umar then said, We were astonished, the man was the one who asked question yet he answered it by himself. The man continued asking, Tell me what iman (belief) is! The Prophet –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said, Iman (belief) means you believe in Allah, His angels, His books, His messengers, and the last day (The Day of Resurrection), and believe in fate (qadar) whether it is good or bad. The man replied, You are correct. Tell me what Ihsan is! The Prophet peace and prayer of Allah be upon him -answered, Ihsan means you worship Allah as if you could see Him. If you could not see Him, verily, He can see you. That man asked, Tell me when the Day of Resurrection will happen! The Prophet – peace and prayer of Allah be upon him -said, The person being questioned does not know more than the person who ask question. That man asked again, Tell me what are its signs (The Day of Resurrection)! The Prophet peace and prayer of Allah be upon him -said, The women slaves will deliver their master (guardian), and you will see people without any shoes, dislike clothing, become poor, and the men who guard flock of sheep compete to build something as high as possible. Then the man went off, while I (Umar) kept silent for the next few days. Afterwards, The Prophet – peace and prayer of Allah be upon him said, O Umar, do you know the man who asked questions last time? Umar said, Allah and His messenger know more. The Prophet – peace and prayer of Allah be upon him -said, Verily, he is angel Gabriel and he came to you all to teach your religion. (Narrated by Muslim)
Dear sisters contemplate the verses below! Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,
“Their Lord answered the prayer thus: “I will not suffer the work of any of you, whether male or female, to go to waste; each of you is from the other.” (Chapter Ali Imran/The Family of Imran:195)
“And those who eschewed disobeying their Lord shall be driven in companies to Paradise so that when they arrive there its gates will have already been thrown open and its keepers shall say to them: “Peace be upon you; you have done well. So enter. Herein you shall abide.” They will say: “All thanks and praise be to Allah Who has made His promise to us come true, and Who gave us the earth to inherit. We may now dwell in Paradise wherever we please.” How excellent is the reward of those who labored!” (Chapter Az Zumar/The Troops:73-74)
“So vie with one another in seeking to attain your Lord’s forgiveness and a Garden whose width is as the width of the heaven and the earth, one which has been prepared for those who believe in Allah and His Messengers. That is Allah’s bounty which He bestows upon those whom He pleases. Allah is the Lord of abounding bounty.” (Chapter Al Hadid/The Iron:21)
Also, O sister, from Ibn ‘Abbas –may Allah be pleased with him- , he said, “I was once behind The Prophet-peace and prayer of Allah be upon him-, and he said, O young man, I shall teach you several words (an advice): Be mindful of Allah, and Allah will protect you, be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you. If you ask for something, ask Allah. If you seek help, seek help to Allah. Know that even if one nation gathers together to benefit you, they will not be able to give you any benefit, except one thing that Allah has decided for you, if one group (community) gathers together to put you in danger, they will not be able to harm you without any danger being determined by Allah. The pens of fate have been lifted and the pages have dried.( (At-Turmudzi, he said, The hadith is a valid and good [hasan].)
O sister, be mindful of your prayer –may Allah guide you-. Allah decreed, “Surely Prayer forbids indecency and evil. “ (Chapter Al Ankabut/The Spider:45)
From Abu Huraira –may Allah be pleased with him-, he said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said, “Do you know that if there is a river in front of someone’s house among you, and he baths in it five times every day, is there any dirt that’ll left on him?’. The companions replied, ‘Surely there will be no dirt left on him.’ Then he said, ‘That is the five daily prayer, by which Allah erases your sins.” (Muttafaq ‘alaih).
Pay your zakat, fast in Ramadan, and perform pilgrimage to Bait al Haram, if you could. May Allah guide you, indeed, Allah is the Leader of the faithful.
O sister, adorn yourself with noble manners, such as honesty, trustworthiness, bashfulness, modesty, and patience. May the Qur’an be your manner. You should also connect the family ties, and be devoted to your parents, since they have a great right over you.
Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,
“Serve Allah and ascribe no partner to Him. Do good to your parents,” (Chapter An Nisa’:36)
Avoid the indecent acts, such as being arrogant, oppressive, telling lies, slandering, pitting people against one another, envious, conning others, etc.
O sister, hold firm to the covering clothes that Allah has prescribed perfectly upon you, and be proud of it; do not be fooled by the misconception and evil desire that come from the enemies of Islam, because you are a muslim, who submit yourself to Allah, Lord of the universe, Creator of this universe. He had ordered you in His decree,
“O Prophet, enjoin your wives and your daughters and the believing women, to draw a part of their outer coverings around them. It is likelier that they will be recognised and not molested. Allah is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Chapter Al Ahzab/The Clans:59)
Dear sisters beware of and avoid the free mixing with men anywhere, because in that cautiousness there is protection and respect to yourself. Listen to the decree of your Creator:
“Wives of the Prophet, you are not like other women. If you fear Allah, do not be too complaisant in your speech lest those with diseased hearts should covet you; but speak in a straight forward manner.” (Chapter Al Ahzab/The Clans:33)
From Ibn Abbas –may Allah be pleased with him-, he said that he heard the Prophet –peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said, “It is not allowed for a man to be alone with a woman without her mahram. And it is not allowed for a woman to travel except with her mahram. Someone asked him, “O Messenger of Allah, my wife will perform pilgrimage, while I’ve been registered to join such-and-such battle?”. He replied, “Go and perform pilgrimage wit your wife.” (Muttafaqun’alaih).
Dear sisters may Allah protect you from all evil- beware of all means of destruction and crime- such as imitating the disbelievers and copy them, reading the cheap magazines which are full of venoms and poisons. Be mindful of your sight and hearing, from everything forbidden. Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,
“ Surely the hearing, the sight, the heart – each of these shall be called to account.” (Chapter Al Isra/The Night Journey:36)
It is highly suggested that you looked and wear Islamic clothes, far from the propaganda set by the enemies of Islam through their lowly fashion magazines. Because you are, by Allah, more noble and great compared to the remnants of the ignorants promoted by evildoer at any time and place.
Dear sisters, make an effort to befriend your righteous sisters, and beware of hanging out with women who have gone from Allah’s way.
The Messenger of Allah-peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said,
“The parable of “The parable of a good and a bad friend is like a bearer of musk and a blacksmith. The musk bearer may give you some of the musk, or you can buy some of it from him, or you may smell good smell from him. Whereas the blacksmith may burn your clothes. Or you may smell something bad from him.” (muttafaq alaih).
Dear sisters be the one to enjoin people to Allah’s path, from among the family and other muslim sisters, wisely and with providing decent advices to them.
Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,
“(O Prophet), call to the way of your Lord with wisdom and goodly exhortation, and reason with them in the best manner possible. Surely your Lord knows best who has strayed away from His path, and He also knows well those who are guided to the Right Way.” (Chapter An Nahl/The Bee:125)
“The believers, both men and women, are allies of one another. They enjoin good, forbid evil, establish Prayer, pay Zakah, and obey Allah and His Messenger. Surely Allah will show mercy to them. Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise.” (Chapter At Tawbah/The Repentance:71)
O sister, You should follow the example set by the wives of the Messenger-peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- as well as other companions, in educating The children with Islamic education, so that they –by Allah’s aid- will be living role model to every muslim who enjoin people to Islam with knowledge.
Dear sisters I advise you to be shy, for shyness is a part of faith.
From Imran Ibn Hushain, may Allah be pleased with him, he said,”The Messenger of Allah was even more shy than a girl in her restraint , if he saw something that he hates,
We could tell it from his face.”(Muttafaq ‘alaihi).
O sister, be joyous with any goodness that will befall you by Allah’s will. Think about Allah’s verse :
“Surely the men who submit (to Allah) and the women who submit (to Allah), the men who have faith and the women who have faith, the men who are obedient and the women who are obedient, the men who are truthful and the women who are truthful; the men who are steadfast and the women who are steadfast, the men who humble themselves (to Allah) and the women who humble themselves (to Allah), the men who give alms and the women who give alms, the men who fast and the women who fast, the men who guard their chastity and the women who guard their chastity, the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember Allah much: for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and a mighty reward.” (Chapter Al ahzab/The Clans:35)
May Allah the Glorified and Exalted protect you with His guarding, nurture you to grow decently, and make you a righteous daughter, a righteous sister, a righteous mother, and grant you happiness in the world and in the Hereafter. Indeed, my Lord is very close, the Hearer and Granter of du’a.
Taken from: Beberapa Nasehat Untuk Keluarga Muslim” Oleh : Yusuf Bin Abdullah At-Turky